Sunday, November 30, 2008

Preparation

Hello Everyone:

We are in the midst of preparing every document known to man, in duplicate and notarized, for the country of Ethiopia. Its coming along, slowly but surely.

A couple of nights ago, the t.v. show, 20/20, aired a terrifying piece on foreign adoption that scared me senseless. It showed the dark side of adoption when the kids lash back in such a way that parents end up terminating the adoption for being at their wit's end. Apparently this process is very similar to a divorce. It did seem that these adopted children were older when adopted and most seemed to be from Russia. Justin has researched and purchased several books, not only on adoption, but trans-racial adoption as well. We are going to do the best we can to equip ourselves with the necessary tools to not only be good parents, but good adoption parents. It definitely will not be easy.

We are going to be honest from the very beginning and do our best to create a loving bond as well as a relationship with openness and clear boundries. We also want to help her become successful in life through support and self esteem. We will constantly tell her how smart she is, how beautiful she is and how much we love her. This will not be very hard because it will all be true.

3 comments:

j.b said...

yeah, that show sucked. we both looked at each other with fear in our eyes and realized we're in for something much bigger than we had initially thought -- and we thought we were in for something pretty darn big.

but, we'll manage i'm sure. there will be some rough times, i'm sure, that are solely adoption related. i think we'll be able to navigate through those with minimal damage.

Ms. B said...
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Unknown said...

GAH!! This is the third time I've tried to leave a comment. That one that got deleted above was me. I was trying to use my other google ID. And I messed it up. Because I am an idiot okay? But idiots need love too.

Anyway this is the original comment, or something like it: you're going to be fine. Dadblast that media and their alarmist stories, but you'll be great. You kooky kids, there's no hurdle you can't overcome!