Without going into too many specifics--because we're really not in the mood to get specific here--there might be a big decision we will have to make next week. This decision is in regards to whether we continue along the track we are on (with the beautiful little girl we've been "matched" with) or switch tracks and accept another match. This is not a decision that will be made lightly, as one will require the abandonment of a baby that has already been abandoned (and who can do that, really?) and the other will require resolve and the potential for waiting many months for things to clear up, if they ever do (and if they end up not resolving, that would put us right back here except a bunch of months having been wasted).
The reasons this decision has to be made are many, and it's not the proper time to discuss this, though it will be discussed (believe you me). Let's just say we have found ourselves in the morass that is international adoption. It's a common story.
But, who suffers most in this chess match played by the adults? The babies; the beautiful little girls and boys in orphanages around the world suffer, and are neglected, and die without love because adults feel the need to use them as pawns in their political and nationalistic machinations and power struggles. It's a lose-lose situation, except for those who receive the considerable monies that change hands; for them it's pure W-I-N!
This is where we are at. The same place we've been since May, when we were first matched with that beautiful one-month old. She's 5 and a half months old now, and there's no end in sight. We are in adoption purgatory and there isn't even the courtesy of a few magazines to read while we wait.........................
2 comments:
I'm so sorry.
Here is a story I have only told
to Jenifer.
When I was born, I was my mother's
first of six, two were still born,
a nurse approached my mother to
have her sign "some paper work".
My mother never had had children,
and so signed the paper work, not
knowing what she had signed.
The nurse asked my mother, and mom
was still groggy from giving
birth, if she was absolutely
certain she wanted to do this. My
mother asked what the nurse was
talking about. The nurse showed my
mother the signed papers, and just
said, " putting your child up for
adoption - are you sure you want to do this?"
My mom screamed.
Well, it got sorted out, and I
wasn't adopted. And I have no idea
why I am relating the story here.
It may even be inappropriate.
Probably so. Most things I talk
about are inappropriate.
Unintentionally so.
I just wanted to relate that
whatever you decide, it will be
okay. And children love us no
matter what.
You know they do.
- -
All the best,
from me. . .
Father Luke
Thanks Father Luke. No, it's not inappropriate.
It's a crazy story though. Wow. I'm glad things turned out.
Obviously the week mentioned in the post has come and gone. We have some news but are waiting for just a little further confirmation to relate was our decision was and what we do from here on out.
We appreciate your kindness, support and interest. You're right: in the end, it'll all work out, even if it doesn't work out the way we had hoped.
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